事实不像男性所认知的那般
It's not like man have been wrong before.
我是说,这么多年来
I mean, for years,
男性认为他们比女性更聪明
men have thought that they were smarter than women.
英国大学里的女性
Women in universities in the U.K.
在几乎所有学科中表现比男性更优秀
do better than men in nearly every area of performance.
根据最新调查报告显示
That's according to new research.
数年来,男性一直认为
For years, men have thought
女性不该工作
that women should not work.
2009年,女性在全体劳动者中
And that was 2009,when women became
占比超过50%
more than 50% of the workforce.
数年来
And for years,
男性认为女性无法胜任领导的任务
men have thought that women couldn't lead.
去年,有史以来第一次
And last year,for the first time,
女性担任美国经理的比例达到54%
women became 54% of all American managers.
数年来,男性认为
For years, men have thought
女性无力战斗
that women could not fight.
参议院刚刚对一份议案进行表决.这份议案会使得女性
The Senate just voted on a bill that would have women
有资格进入美国♥军♥队
be eligible to be drafted into the US military
这在美国历史上尚属首次
for the first time in American history.
金赛（美国印第安纳大学性学教授）提到这数年间
And Kinsey mentioned that for years,
男性认为女性性♥欲♥更低
men have thought that women had a lower sex drive.
过去的女性在性方面
Women in the past were sexually
和今天的女性有极大的不同
very different than women of today.
但是现在有了
But now there's a cable channel
专门为女性放黄♥片♥的有线频道
that just shows porn for women.
女性的性高♥潮♥
The female orgasm can be
比男性的性高♥潮♥要强烈十多倍
10 times more powerful than the male orgasm.
女性比男性有更广泛的性兴奋范围
Women have a wider range of arousal than men.
我认为性是女性身份重要的一部分
I think sexuality is more part of a woman's identity.
如果女性觉醒
If women were raised
开始思考她们是性的产物时
to think of themselves as sexual creatures,
你很可能会看到一个大相径庭的世界
you would probably see a very different world.
成长过程中,我从没意识到
Growing up, I never realized
我是个性♥欲♥旺盛的人
that I had a high sex drive.
直到我发现我对性
Not until I discovered that sex seemed to feel
有种特殊的感觉
more special to me.
不是因为我约会的男性认为这并不特殊
It's not that the guys I dated didn't think it was special.
而是这东西让我感到充实和深邃
It's just that, for me,it felt richer, deeper.
它让我非常满意
It was more satisfying.
这就像我们做着同一件事
It's like we were doing the same thing,
但我拥有截然不同的体验
but I had a totally different experience.
只有我一个女性有如此感觉吗?
Am I the only woman who feels this way?
或者有更多的女性和我一样感同身受?
Or are there more women who feel like me?
看情况,如果男性
It depends.If-If-If the man
爱着他的女人
is in love with his woman,
他会感觉到蓬勃的爱意
he will feel love with emotions.
但是如果他,你懂的,只是一♥夜♥情♥
But if he, you know,it's like one-night stand,
他只是,只是,嗯
he just-- he just, uh,
满足他的欲望
fulfills his pleasure.
就这样
That's it.
我想一个女人
And I think for a woman,
总是个情绪动物
there's always such amount of emotions.
我认为作为一个女人,这非常重要
I think for a woman,it's more important.
我想作为一个男人,因为他的...这提升了自我价值
I think for the man, because of his... it bolsters his ego.
是的,作为一个女人,因为我们有更多的性致
Yes, for a woman, because we have more sexual energy.
我认为两者是一样的
I think it's about the same.
哦,这两者有区别,但...
there are differences,but...
是的,我对女性性♥欲♥更旺盛这点深信不疑
Yes, I definitely think that women have a higher sex drive,
因为,对于我们来说,感官上的愉悦更加强烈,更深
because, for us it's more sensual,and it just feels deeper.
我必须站女性
I have to say women
因为她们渴望爱意,
because they crave affection,
至于男性,他们只是...
and guys, they just...
对于男性来说,更为重要的事是
For men,it's more important
和不同人进行更多的性♥交♥
to have lots of sex with different people.
他们都喜欢这个,但男性想要的更频繁.
They both like it,
but men want it more often.
对于女性来说,认真对待
For women,
it's important to make this
她们性♥爱♥中的每一个行为
one act of sex they do
显得更为重要
an important thing.
可能的恋人关系中明显有一个短板
There's apparently a shortage of possible romantic partners.
对于男人荒的抱怨
Complaints of a man drought...
对于爱的追寻迫在眉睫
The search for love is in a state of emergency.
是什么在阻挡她们追寻白马王子?
What's keeping them from finding their Prince Charming?
人们不愿承认现实
People don't want to admit what the reality is.
职业黑人女性并没有让情况变好
Professional black women are not making it up.
澳大利亚陷入男人荒的困境
Australia is caught up in a man drought.
难以找到合适的男性♥伴♥侣♥
Finding the right man is proving elusive.
这并不容易,男人荒绝对存在
It's not easy out there.There's definitely a man drought.
我感觉到了,甚至找到一个约会对象都很难
I'm feeling it. It's hard to find a date, even.
听着,如果你是个女人,你八成在想
Look, if you're a woman,and you've been wondering
男人都去哪了
where all the men have gone,
好消息是他们并不在你的脑子里
the good news is that it's not in your head,
但坏消息就是你想得完全正确
but the bad news is that you're actually right.
男性的供应出现了巨大的短缺
There is a massive shortage of men.
百万女性知道这样的感觉
Millions of women know just what it feels like
在男人的简历中浏览
to look around at the men on offer
然后想着,"不了,谢谢“
and think, "No, thanks."
然后,拖延,拖延,拖延,能拖多久拖多久
Okay, delay, delay, delay,as much as you possibly can,
知道你发现你已经遇到过
until you know that you've met someone
能和你欢度余生的男人
that you can be happy with
for the rest of your life.
看着浪漫喜剧长大
Growing up with romantic comedies,
你肯定会想生活会过的像一部瑞茜 威瑟斯彭(指甜蜜)电影
you do tend to think that life should be like
a Reese Witherspoon movie,
这会使你罔顾现实
that you should be swept off your feet.
一些成功的女性
Some successful women
拥有优秀的男性却不自知
have had good men and didn't know it.
男性和女性经常对性有着不同的看法
Men and women have always had different opinions about sex,
但是根据约会专家的经验,在最近15年间
but according to dating experts, there has never been
从来没有如此巨大的男女关系转变
such a major shift in relationships than in the last 15 years.
今天我和其中一位约会专家见面
Today I am meeting one of those dating experts,
玛西娅 昌
Marcia Chong.
在她书中,她谈到
In her work,she talks about
现代性别角色如何颠覆约会游戏
how modern gender roles have completely changed the dating game,
和多年的经验如何让她
and how years of experience have led her
得出一个有趣的结论
to an interesting conclusion.
她认为性对女性更重要
She believes that sex is more important for women,
今天我想知道其中的原因
and today I want to find out why.
当谈到性和魅力时
When it comes to sex and attraction,
每一个女人都有一个从来不和男性分享的秘密
every woman has a secret that we never share with men,
因为如果我们分享了,事情会变得尴尬起来
because if we did, things might get a little awkward.
你知道的,每个女人有张清单
You see,every woman has a list,
上面写了我们对一个男人所有的期望
a list of all the things we want in a man.
但问题不是清单
Now, the problem is not the list.
问题是清单的大小
The problem is the size of the list
事实是它是如此的详细
and the fact that it is that detailed.
举个例子,他必须要高,要帅
For example,he has to be tall, handsome,
强壮，受过良好教育且充满上进心
strong,educated and ambitious,
有份好工作,有套漂亮的房♥子,汽车
have a good job,have a nice house, a car,
而且他必须乐于社交,能很好的融入我们的家庭
and he has to be social and fit in with our family.
当然,他必须是个接吻高手
And of course,he has to be a good kisser,
一个好情人,一位孩子们的好父亲
a good lover, and a great father for our children.
但不幸的是
But, unfortunately,
只有少数男性能够达到期望值
only a few men can meet those high expectations,
这就是男性认为女性缺少性致的原因
and that's why many men think that
women aren't interested in sex.
但是我们很有性致,这只是
But we are.It's just that
大多数男人达不到清单上的要求
most men don't make the list.
我们称之为80/20法则
And we call this the 80/20 principle.
-80/20法则? -是的
-The 80/20 principle? -Yes.
这是一个市场法则,同样适用于约会
It's a marketing principle that's also used in the dating world,
它表示80%的女性